Mama Talk: Going against the grain

6 Dec
Bratz! dolls: Or, how to teach your innocent daughter how to dress like a slut.

Bratz! dolls: Or, how to teach your innocent daughter to dress like a slut.

So, I’ve been noticing a lot of buzz recently from people genuinely worried about what their kids are learning in school, being indoctrinated with from the media, and hearing and experiencing in their social culture. There are a lot of things that have become “normal” that some of us old-fashioned parents find questionable. I’d like to start a mini-series within this blog to touch on some of these issues that I, as a young and fairly new parent, certainly worry about as well. These issues will undoubtedly affect our children, and, as parents, we need to be the ones kept on guard to make sure we are the ones raising our children. Some topics I will be covering will include health and nutrition, public education, media exposure, and the initiative to introduce sexuality to our children at the youngest ages possible. Today I’m just going to briefly touch upon the way our culture is attacking traditional methods of parenting.

First off, I have to say that I believe the most important thing we can do as parents is to remember that we, ultimately, are the ones in charge. We are responsible for the upbringing of our children. It is our job to make sure that they are growing up the way we believe is right. That’s the beauty of individual liberty in this country – or it has been, up until recent decades. We may not always agree with the way our neighbor is raising her child. We might think it’s kind of weird that her kid has a cell phone at the age of 8 and is allowed to stay up past 10 p.m., but, while we may be clucking our tongues, we recognize that our neighbor’s child is the responsibility of our neighbor. Right?

I used to think so, but I’m not so sure that’s an acceptable form of belief in this country anymore. It seems that at the moment a parent does something that seems off, perhaps not politically correct, CPS is knocking at the door and demanding the parent take a class on how to be the government approved version of a parent.

The fact of the matter is that your child is your responsibility. Not the government’s. Not the school system’s. Not MTV’s. If you don’t want your child to be taught that it’s okay to totally reject his gender, use free condoms from the nurse’s office without consenting you, and decide on his own “free will” whether or not he will embrace the faith you have tried to instill in him, you have the freedom to do something about it. Parents do not simply have to bend over and accept that whatever’s going to happen to our kids is just going to happen and there’s nothing we can do about it.

Today more than ever, it is going to take guts to raise a kid right. It takes a parent willing to go against the grain, and perhaps piss some people off, in order to ensure her child is going to make it. Almost all parents have their kids’ best interests at heart. I think what some refuse to realize is that the world around them often does not. The advertising campaigns for unhealthy foods don’t have your kids’ best interests at heart. Do you think MGA Entertainment, the manufacturer of Bratz dolls, cares if your eight-year-old daughter is being over exposed to sexuality by playing with their scantily clad dolls (who look suspiciously like cross-dressing hookers)? No. Most of these companies are not looking at the future of your children as the issue. They are looking at your wallet.

My daughter is almost three, and I have already begun to see the things I am going to be up against as a parent. I walk around the mall and wonder what these ten year old girls are doing wandering around unaccompanied, mini skirts hiked up to an absurd height, as they nearly bump into other shoppers because they are too busy looking down at their touch screens to bother watching where they are going. And it makes me nervous. It makes me wonder how much I can really do to protect my child from the many poisons that will inevitably surround her as she grows up. And I can only pray that I will have the strength, wisdom, and understanding to fight for her all the way, never losing sight of the fact that she is my responsibility, and it is my job to show her the way.


2 Responses to “Mama Talk: Going against the grain”

  1. dd December 7, 2012 at 12:39 am #

    As a parent who’s children are now grown up and raised them with the same ideals you are talking about in your article, i hope the best for you and will pray for your success and the Lord to give you strength as you will need it. You are going to be up against a lot of others who couldn’t care less what you think about raising your children and being responsible for them. They will still try to take that from you and take your control away. You are living in a very different world than when you were growing up. I think you have already realized that. If i could give any advice i would tell you to home school your kids and don’t even expose them to the crap out there. I sent my kids to public school took my responsibility’s as a parent and stood on my ground to defend them against all opposition. Because they were in the public sector of school and did have good experiences and i was very involved i however did see that they endured a lot of indifference’s of a crazy world. I do think it is worse now about what they are learning to accept. whats right has become the wrong and wrong has become the right. Teach your children well, my friend as you intend to, pray over them everyday and always stand up for the good fight.

    • chelshe December 7, 2012 at 6:20 pm #

      Thank you, I really appreciate the encouragement!

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