Archive | February, 2013

Rambling of the Day: Washington’s advice to avoid rape

21 Feb

I know I’ve stepped off my soapbox for a while, but it’s high time for a proper rambling.

Representative Salazar – how dare you tell the women you were elected to represent they don’t need guns to defend themselves from rapists. Idiot is a strong word, but they used it on Todd Akin and Richard Murdoch when this kind of insulting BS came out of their mouths, so I hope the media isn’t withholding judgment on good ol’ Salazar just because he’s from the party of women’s rights advocates. He is an idiot.

If you don’t know what I’m talking about, take one minute and let the Rep. educate you:

First off, let me say I am disgusted by the discussion surrounding this issue. Recently a hashtag was trending on Twitter called #LiberalTips2AvoidRape. More hilarious than the sarcastic advice given by conservative tweeters was the outrage of the liberals over our audacity for starting such a trend. Guess what the main argument was from that side? We’re blaming the victim and making an excuse for rapists to do what they do. Really now? Do you know how many women will be raped or violated in their lifetime?

One billion.

Let that number soak in a little. That’s one-third of the women on this planet that will be sexually violated against their will. So please explain to me how taking away guns will cause that number to go down. Call boxes? Whistles? “Safe zones?” Are you serious?

Making excuses for rapists. Good grief, you have got to be kidding. Let me set the record straight, to these ridiculous people who think that somehow by suggesting women learn how to defend themselves we are “defending” the rapists. Come join us in reality for just a minute. Reality where you can’t just give a rapist a good talking to or implement some new reform legislation and change the sickness that exists in his heart. As long as there is evil in this world, as long as men have evil in their hearts, you will not change this reality. We are not making excuses for the evil that is rape. We are acknowledging that it is an evil of devastating proportions, and that acknowledgment leads us to want to protect the innocent.

Here is the University of Colorado’s advice to women for preventing rape (where the Twitter hashtag trend stemmed from):

  1. Be realistic about your ability to protect yourself.
  2. Your instinct may be to scream, go ahead!  It may startle your attacker and give you an opportunity to run away.
  3. Kick off your shoes if you have time and can’t run in them.
  4. Don’t take time to look back; just get away.
  5. If your life is in danger, passive resistance may be your best defense.
  6. Tell your attacker that you have a disease or are menstruating.
  7. Vomiting or urinating may also convince the attacker to leave you alone.
  8. Yelling, hitting or biting may give you a chance to escape, do it!
  9. Understand that some actions on your part might lead to more harm.
  10. Remember, every emergency situation is different.  Only you can decide which action is most appropriate.

For reasons totally up to interpretation, these tips have been removed from the website. Weird…

So, please correct me if I’m wrong, but I don’t think the conservatives are the group with the backwards thinking on this. I know everyone wants to throw Republicans under the bus for being traditional and behind the times, but that doesn’t seem to be the case here. These gun control laws are the insult to women. Telling a woman she doesn’t need a gun, she can just piss all over herself and scare off the idiot trying to rape her – that is the insult. Advising a woman to carry a whistle and stay in a “safe zone,” or use a call box, is the insult. The party of progressive thinking is showing an incredible lack of understanding on this subject, which is interesting because I thought they were the experts on women. I thought they were defending us in the Republican war on women. It simply amazes me that the party that wants so badly to defend a woman’s right to choose when it comes to her body takes so lightly her choice to protect that body from needing to make that choice. You can’t pick and choose how want to stand up for women. The same people that told us to vote like our lady parts depend on it have no interest in actually helping us defend those parts from violation. The selective empathy is incredible.

Apparently this is a controversial statement now, but let me make it clear: You will not stop men from being rapists. I agree that our children are increasingly troubled, especially in big cities, and that there is a serious need for reform in our young people who are growing up in this country and becoming violent people. But, I repeat, you will not stop men from being rapists. Rape is a crime that has existed forever. It is a representation of the depravity of our humanity and you will not eradicate it. Perhaps with effort we will be able to improve the situation on our streets in this country to a point where we will lower the rate of rapes… but the idea that the best way to prevent these crimes is by trying to change the rapists is absolutely bonkers. If there were a zombie apocalypse, would you try to talk down the zombies into becoming vegetarians? Or do you think maybe instead you might think about purchasing a small handgun? Hm? (See The Walking Dead for correct answer…)

I am sad for the women who are being fooled into this backward progressivism. We are smarter than this. We need to stop letting the men in Washington tell us how to protect ourselves. One billion of us will face brutality in our lifetimes. If you’re faced with someone who has every intention of hurting you, do you really want to take your chances with their advice and tell your attacker you’re menstruating? Or vomit on him in hopes it will repulse him enough to leave you alone? That’s the sound advice coming from the party of women’s rights. From the big-headed morons on Capitol Hill who have no idea what it’s like to have the sinking feel that it might be this time, this parking lot, this walk from my building to my car when it could happen. It could be my turn. This nonsense is embarrassing and insulting. Stand up for yourselves, ladies, because Washington is not going to do it for you.

Mama Talk: There’s WHAT in that hamburger?

5 Feb

Well, horse meat if you got it from Burger King.

Okay, let’s get real – nobody wants to eat horse meat. And we don’t go through the drive thru at a fast food place because we want to consume extraordinary amounts of trans fats and all the chemicals that are used in the mass production of the food. But let’s face it – it’s much easier and, in most cases, cheaper, to eat stuff that’s bad for you. And many of us shrug it off, assuming that if it’s being sold to the public it can’t be that bad for you. If this is you, I suggest you watch the documentary Food, Inc. all the way through – no matter how grossed out you get – because the thought that things can’t possibly be that bad has got to go. Yes, they can be that bad, and they are, and you’re paying for it.

I’m not going to go deeply into detail about the dangers of processed foods and the fast food industry. Watch the documentary, read Fast Food Nation – or simply do a few minutes of non-government funded research for yourself. What you will find in just five minutes of exploring is that a huge portion of the foods available to us everywhere we go is loaded with junk that is truly terrible for our bodies. This is the food that’s being sold in our country – it’s the food that’s profitable, that is the easiest to sell because it’s cheap to make and cheap to consume. Sadly, this is the reality and it probably won’t be changing any time soon. So if you want to be healthy, you truly have to be actively engaged in choosing healthy foods for you and your kids, or you will undoubtedly become a victim of the food industry.

The most important thing to remember when thinking about your family’s nutrition is what I have said repeatedly about almost everything I’ve talked about: it is your responsibility, and yours alone. The food industry, which profits from your blind consumption of their crap, certainly doesn’t care. The pharmaceutical companies making billions off your medications definitely don’t care. The government has bigger fish to fry, and they’ve got the food industry lobbyists so far down their throats it makes no difference whether they like it or not. No one is going to be responsible for your health and well-being but you. You must play an active role in choosing the foods you consume. That being said, yes, it will cost you. You will absolutely pay more for locally-grown meats and vegetables, organic snacks and non-processed foods. But… I hear triple-bypass surgeries are also quite expensive, so you’ll have to pick your poison.

Here are just a few of my humble suggestions for how to keep your family eating as clean as possible:

1. Be an obnoxious label-reader.

I know it takes longer to read the ingredients. I know people glare at you when they’re waiting behind you in the aisles. Just do it. Read the label, find out what in the world you’re putting into your body, and then decide if you’re going to purchase it or not. If one of the main ingredients is high fructose corn syrup or it’s loaded with preservatives with names you can’t even begin to pronounce, it probably isn’t safe.

2. Don’t assume the front of the box is a reflection of the back.

The nutrition label is on the back of the box for a reason. It’s also in small print for a reason. The front might say 50% less fat or High in Fiber! in big bold letters, but the back could be home to 20+ ingredients chock full of bad stuff. Companies are required to list all of the ingredients for you, but they can say whatever nonsense they want on the rest of the box. Don’t be fooled by the box.

3. Stock up.

If your kid is anything like mine, she probably wants to eat… all… the… time. Instead of having to constantly stop for food (and consequently go through the drive thru all the time because you know you don’t want to waste the time unbuckling, shuffling into the store, rebuckling, etc.) make sure you have plenty of healthy snacks available. That means spending more at the grocery store initially, but saving money when you’re out and about, and, more importantly, being kind to your baby’s belly. My favorites are Trader Joe’s applesauce crushers and cereal bars, fresh bananas and other fruits, and trail mix.

4. For the most part, stick to the outer layer of the grocery store.

Basically avoid everything within the center aisles of the store if you can help it. The outer perimeter of the store is where you’ll find meats, veggies, fruits, and eggs. The middle is generally jam-packed full of processed foods that’ll last on those shelves for years because they’re so stuffed full of chemicals. Stick to the stuff that either came out of the ground or once had a face, as much as you possibly can.

5. Local is best.

Most places have at least a handful of farmer’s market-type local food spots. Go to them as much as you can! The less traveling your food had to do to get to you, the better off you are eating it. Not only are you being kind to your body, but you are also supporting the local farmers in your area – and really, in this day and age, those guys need all the help they can get. And if you’ve never been to a farmer’s market, don’t think that it’s just local vegetables. Most of these places have organic jams, dried fruits, trail mix type snacks, and other items that you can feel good about eating. You don’t necessarily have to go and buy bushels of kale.

I know we can’t always eat perfectly healthy, and I understand the limits of a budget that make it even harder. Just remember that investing in your health and the health of your kids now is just as important as investing in their education and financial future. Helping them understand the importance of healthy eating at a young age is the best way you can contribute to their outlook on food in the future. Do your part as the parent by setting the example that their culture refuses to set for them.

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